Christmas is out the way and 2017 is right around the corner. Now is the time people live off cold cuts and start thinking about want they want to achieve next year. I’m not really a fan of resolutions myself, here are some of my favourite alternatives. There’s a lot of negative language and impressions that come with them. Happiness is almost never a priority.
One quick Google search shows us that getting fit or losing weight are two of the most popular resolutions. There is a bizarre ‘guilt culture’ which is overwhelmingly present this time of year. It’s absolute bullshit and I can’t get behind it. Food is meant to be enjoyed and that’s what Christmas is all about. Despite what many companies say, you are absolutely under no obligation to go on a diet come January. (Unless you want to, of course.)
In fact, a lot of popular New Year’s Resolutions are a bit problematic. If you are somebody who enjoys resolutions, why not consider these feminist ones instead.
Feminist alternatives to popular resolutions
- Lose weight. Instead of worrying about what you weigh, take a look at everything that is dragging you down instead. Get rid of all the dead weight and be as ruthless as you need to be. Say goodbye to all of the shit you don’t want to see online, things you no longer want to do, stupid men, toxic friends, the lot.
- Get fit. If you want to get fit in the New Year, consider altering your mindset first. On that note, make mental health a priority in general. 2016 was a tough year on us all, take more time out and up your self care.
New Year’s Resolutions for feminists
- Take up space. Do more of what you love and do it unapologetically.
- Say ‘fuck you’ to beauty standards. These things really don’t matter, they’re all made up anyway. Wear what you makes you feel comfortable. Forget about rules and do what you want.
- Support more women in 2017. Support all women, not just your white sisters. If your feminism isn’t intersectional, it’s bullshit. There is more than one way to be a woman. You cannot pick and choose who your feminism includes. If it’s not for all women, what are you fighting for?
- Make strides to be more inclusive. One of the biggest takeaways from this year is that white women need to do better. This includes myself as well. Different groups face different kinds of oppression, just because you don’t experience it doesn’t mean it’s not real. Make more of an effort to be a better ally. Listen to people’s experiences, don’t talk for or over people, amplify other voices and ask what you can do to support.
- Stop asking ‘is this feminist?’. Respect other people’s decisions. Stop trying to pit women against each other.
- Call more people out. I honestly think we excuse too much and this is why things don’t change. We have a tendency to avoid discussing certain things in case of making a scene or ruining a friendship and so on. But look at the state of the world, Donald Trump is going to be President. Now is the time to challenge people and call them out on their shit.
- Listen to criticism. The most memorable thing I saw online this year was ‘think about the times you are the Lena Dunham of the conversation‘. By all means challenge white feminism but think about what you can do better also. In the past, I have been guilty of not listening and just getting too defensive. It doesn’t matter what your intentions are, listen to what people are saying.
- Shop small. Support more small businesses and independent sellers. Stop asking people to work for free. Support creatives and buy your friend’s art.
- Donate. Whether it’s your time, money, or possessions, spend more time finding out how you can help local women’s shelters or charities etc.
- Rise up and fight fight fight. Recognise your privilege, use it for good. Make an effort to find out what can be done to fight injustice. Sign/share petitions, tweet people, etc. You have a voice, please use it.
Got any more you’d add?