2015 will go down as the year I gave up birth control and started my conquest for the perfect condom.
Me and birth control don’t get along.
For years, I have tried various forms of birth control and nothing has worked for me. Well okay, I guess that’s not entirely true as they’ve worked in a sense. Although these methods have prevented pregnancy, they’ve really altered my mind, body, and soul.
Between the age of 14 – 21, I was on the pill (and the implant for the last part) on and off. Some of the worst side effects I’ve experienced include: migraines, bleeding every fortnight, extreme sadness and lack of sex drive.
For as long as I can remember, I was told that I had to be on birth control because men wouldn’t wear condoms. Various women would gasp and shake their head at the thought of relying on condoms – even doctors. I specifically remember my doctor’s reaction when I requested three month’s worth of birth control pills, instead of six because I planned to come off it soon. When I told her I wanted to take a break but still remain sexually active (using condoms), she was very adamant I had to be on something else and continued to push other forms of contraception onto me.
On top of all of this, it’s always been really fucking awkward buying condoms. We live in a society where young adults, especially women, are shamed for enjoying sex. If we wear something too ‘revealing’, express any form of desire or sleep with more than one person, we’re immediately branded a ‘slut’.
Although men can be slut shamed too, they very rarely are. When a guy is sleeping with multiple women, he’s congratulated. So if he is out buying condoms, one of two things can happen: he’s given a look that screams “play on playing, playa” or nobody bats an eyelid.
When a woman is buying condoms, or any health-related product for that matter (like sanitary items), it’s usually quite awkward. In the past, I’ve had cashiers look disapprovingly and even make comments! Ask any woman who has experienced this and I bet she will tell you the same.
So.. if we’re not on birth control and have to use condoms, even though it’s painfully awkward purchasing them, you think there would be this great product women who want to go and buy, right? Wrong.
There’s a huge gap in the market and one gal who recognised this is Tiffany Gaines, founder of Lovability Inc.*
Lovability Inc., a start-up condom company fuelled by girl power and sex positivity, is one of my favourite finds of 2015. Lovability started back in 2013 when Tiffany needed tampons. They were located so high up at her local market that the clerk used an orange picking claw to fetch them. As a graduate student in SVA’s “Design for Social Change” program, she was inspired to empower women through better product placement and design. She quickly identified condoms as one of the greatest gaps in the female wellness market. No brand met her needs or seemingly even cared to try. After many late nights into her program, Tiffany launched Lovability Inc. with the mission to help women everywhere feel confident using condoms.
After interviewing Claire Courtney, the CMO at Lovability Inc., for Zusterschap, I was delighted when they asked if I wanted to review their product too. As I mentioned above, I’ve been on the hunt for the perfect condom ever since I started being sexually active. Nine years later and I think I may have finally found the perfect brand.
“We want women to love every inch of their body and every surface of their spirit. Full-body wellness is connected to so many things, but it starts with confidence. The confidence to own your desires, respect your being and accept yourself. We see condoms as one of many tools that inspire women to express self-adoration. To some that’s a stretch, but to us it’s a no brainer.” – Claire Courtney
Although I’m not that into pink or overtly feminine products, I love Lovability’s design. With a strong message that I adore, their condoms are just as pleasurable. Lovability’s condoms are gorgeously packaged which makes you think about how ugly condoms can be. Inside a cute little pouch, you can find the condoms in a beautifully designed tin. These also come in tow with an inspiring quote.
One of my favourite things about Lovability’s condoms is the fact that they are super lubricated. As somebody who has previously suffered with vaginal dryness (thanks again, birth control!), this is something I welcomed with open legs.
The condoms are one of the strongest my partner and I have had the pleasure of using. “You can never have enough lube”, he said, after we took the product for a test bone. I’ve struggled with many lubes in the past, but these condoms finally worked in my favour. With an aloe-infused lubrication, my vagina loves Lovability Inc.
In addition to that, they’re made of 100% natural vegan latex, odor-free, and incredibly easy to open.
Lovability Inc. offer discreet shipping anywhere in the world.
Use the code ‘catstello’ at check-out for discount: www.lovabilitycondoms.com