As a blogger, I see a lot of discussions around what makes you successful and what doesn’t. Numbers and stats very quickly become the focus and unhealthy mindsets are soon adopted. It’s a topic everyone has an opinion on, even more so since “Instagram star” Essena O’Neil’s recent denouncement.
I don’t think there is anything wrong with measuring your success via numbers, as long as you’re happy doing that. I don’t have anything against people who live their life competing with others, it’s just not for me. Knowing my mindset, this kind of success measuring isn’t a healthy option. I’m a big fan of shine theory and I don’t think comparison helps anyone.
As a young woman I believe it’s up to myself, and myself only, to define my own success. We live in a world where women in particular are constantly under scrutiny and pitted against one another every day. With that in mind, why would I want to let anybody else define my success?
Obviously in some aspects of life there are going to be people measuring your success, like at work for example. But I’m talking about defining your own success on a much more personal level.
You need to rid yourself of, or try your best to ignore, the negativity. Whether it’s a disapproving parent, an unsupportive friend, or some loser on the Internet – filter it out.
Don’t even take notice of it.
We’ve got to stop comparing ourselves to others because we’re all successful for many different reasons.
You’ve started a blog.
You write regularly.
You got out of bed this morning.
You survived a bad mental health day.
You overcame a fear.
All of these things make you a successful human!
I may not have the largest following but I have regular engagement with some fantastic people. I don’t earn much money from blog but that doesn’t mean it’s all for nothing.
The best thing I ever did was stop listening to others. The moment I started ignoring disapproving parents, judgemental ‘friends’, brash bloggers, clickbait articles or unsolicited advice, I was happier.
Although I may not be happy with some of my current circumstances, I’m still successful.
Once I stopped focusing on follower counts and blog analytics, blogging became a much more enjoyable experience. I’m a big believer in the “quality over quantity” mentality. I’d much rather have a small circle of loyal social media pals interested in my work than a huge following only moderately engaged.
I’ve never been a very career-minded person. I’m very fortunate to have a steady administrative job that I’m good at and earn enough to get by comfortably. My job may be boring and have little-to-no room for advancement, but it keeps my life stable so that I can pursue creative endeavors in my spare time. I’ve been setting and achieving personal goals to live a more creative lifestyle. To me, this is success.
Don’t measure yourself against others, it’s a waste of time. Let others inspire you, but focus on your own little world. We’re all doing the best we can!
What others may view as success will look very different from your definition and that’s the beauty of it. Success is something you have to define for yourself.