The past couple of years we haven’t really done much for Valentine’s Day. The holiday itself doesn’t hold a huge significance to me. Our anniversary is the day after, so we tend to focus on that instead. Having said that, we are going away to celebrate it this year and I cannot wait.
Valentine’s Day is a capitalist scheme made to get you to buy stuff, but what holiday isn’t? It doesn’t mean you can’t still enjoy it. You’re not any better of a couple if you refuse to acknowledge it and you’re also not a bad person if you love Valentine’s Day either! I think you can recognise how silly something is, but still do something anyway. After all, I’d take any excuse for some presents or a nice night out.
Other things I hate about Valentine’s Day is how heteronormative it has become. I think it might be getting better, but the majority of stuff is marketed towards straight people. There’s a number of relationships that are alienated when it comes to mainstream marketing. Another annoying thing about the holiday is how it can make single people feel like crap as well. Being in a relationship isn’t the key to happiness for everyone and I hate seeing my single friends feel down around this time of year.
Since we haven’t done much the past couple of years, I have been thinking about other things we can focus on during this holiday. I think the focus of Valentine’s Day should be love in general, that doesn’t always have to mean love for your partner. Here are three other things you can celebrate this Valentine’s Day.
This is something I try to promote a lot and I’m sure you’re probably sick of hearing about it now! I think loving your body is one of the best things you can do for yourself. We live in a world where brands literally profit off of you hating your body. It’s fucked up, corrupt and total bullshit. Beauty standards are literally made up, there’s more than one way to be beautiful. Celebrating your body feels like a revolutionary act, but I know it’s not possible for everyone. I hope that I can help other women get there though.
Just because you’re alone this Valentine’s Day doesn’t mean you can’t have some fun. Embracing my sexuality definitely helped me become more body positive and I’ve got the perfect brand to help you do the same. Smile Makers are all about normalising conversations around self-pleasure and aim to eliminate the stigma around it. They recently send me ‘The Surfer‘ and it’s the perfect starter for somebody looking to dive into the wonderful world of sex toys.
It’s unique and pocket-size, so it’s not too overwhelming. I love the material they use as well, it’s perfect for a first-timer. I think even some bullets can be a bit scary as they can feel quite cold. A lot of my readers are people looking to explore these kind of things and I’m happy to share with you products that I have personally tried and tested. Smile Makers toys are smooth and very quiet, perfect if you’re feeling embarrassed or want to play when people are asleep or something.
The only thing that irks me is the names they have given the vibrators; they’re all named after men and are referred to as ‘he’ on their website. I think it contributes to the heteronormative nature of marketing I was referring to earlier. But other than that, I can’t knock them. They are a brand that cares out what you’re putting in your body, which can’t be said for a lot of mainstream sex toys. Alone and feeling horny on Valentine’s Day? Pick up a vibrator and run yourself a nice bath, get it girl.
Love in general
Love is a feeling and it’s not something you only feel for your significant other. There are many types of love and that’s what makes it so great. You could spend Valentine’s day with anyone you love; your family, friends, pets, or even spend it doing the things you love. I personally love Leslie Knope’s ‘Galentine’s Day’ tradition.
So don’t let the holiday get you down, why not do something different instead? If you’re celebrating it in a total cliche way, go all out and enjoy that too!
*This post contains PR samples, but all opinions are my own.
How are you spending Valentine’s Day this year?