3 Things To Celebrate On Valentine’s Day

3 Things To Celebrate On Valentine’s Day

The past couple of years we haven’t really done much for Valentine’s Day. The holiday itself doesn’t hold a huge significance to me. Our anniversary is the day after, so we tend to focus on that instead. Having said that, we are going away to celebrate it this year and I cannot wait.

Valentine’s Day is a capitalist scheme made to get you to buy stuff, but what holiday isn’t? It doesn’t mean you can’t still enjoy it. You’re not any better of a couple if you refuse to acknowledge it and you’re also not a bad person if you love Valentine’s Day either! I think you can recognise how silly something is, but still do something anyway. After all, I’d take any excuse for some presents or a nice night out.

Other things I hate about Valentine’s Day is how heteronormative it has become. I think it might be getting better, but the majority of stuff is marketed towards straight people. There’s a number of relationships that are alienated when it comes to mainstream marketing. Another annoying thing about the holiday is how it can make single people feel like crap as well. Being in a relationship isn’t the key to happiness for everyone and I hate seeing my single friends feel down around this time of year.

Since we haven’t done much the past couple of years, I have been thinking about other things we can focus on during this holiday. I think the focus of Valentine’s Day should be love in general, that doesn’t always have to mean love for your partner. Here are three other things you can celebrate this Valentine’s Day.

Your body

This is something I try to promote a lot and I’m sure you’re probably sick of hearing about it now! I think loving your body is one of the best things you can do for yourself. We live in a world where brands literally profit off of you hating your body. It’s fucked up, corrupt and total bullshit. Beauty standards are literally made up, there’s more than one way to be beautiful. Celebrating your body feels like a revolutionary act, but I know it’s not possible for everyone. I hope that I can help other women get there though.

Your sexuality

Just because you’re alone this Valentine’s Day doesn’t mean you can’t have some fun. Embracing my sexuality definitely helped me become more body positive and I’ve got the perfect brand to help you do the same. Smile Makers are all about normalising conversations around self-pleasure and aim to eliminate the stigma around it. They recently send me ‘The Surfer‘ and it’s the perfect starter for somebody looking to dive into the wonderful world of sex toys.

It’s unique and pocket-size, so it’s not too overwhelming. I love the material they use as well, it’s perfect for a first-timer. I think even some bullets can be a bit scary as they can feel quite cold. A lot of my readers are people looking to explore these kind of things and I’m happy to share with you products that I have personally tried and tested. Smile Makers toys are smooth and very quiet, perfect if you’re feeling embarrassed or want to play when people are asleep or something.

The only thing that irks me is the names they have given the vibrators; they’re all named after men and are referred to as ‘he’ on their website. I think it contributes to the heteronormative nature of marketing I was referring to earlier. But other than that, I can’t knock them. They are a brand that cares out what you’re putting in your body, which can’t be said for a lot of mainstream sex toys. Alone and feeling horny on Valentine’s Day? Pick up a vibrator and run yourself a nice bath, get it girl.

Love in general

Love is a feeling and it’s not something you only feel for your significant other. There are many types of love and that’s what makes it so great. You could spend Valentine’s day with anyone you love; your family, friends, pets, or even spend it doing the things you love. I personally love Leslie Knope’s ‘Galentine’s Day’ tradition.

 

So don’t let the holiday get you down, why not do something different instead? If you’re celebrating it in a total cliche way, go all out and enjoy that too!

 

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How are you spending Valentine’s Day this year?

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9 Comments

  1. February 8, 2017 / 4:34 pm

    My fiancé and I always give each other a little gift, and go out for a meal on Valentine’s Day. We don’t make a big deal out of it, but we do mark it in our own way. I love the idea of a Galentine’s Day though – Valentine’s Day is a great day to show someone you love them, whether that’s a partner, best friend or pet!

  2. February 9, 2017 / 12:48 am

    This has got to be my favorite post on Valentine’s ever! Yes, loving your body is such a revolutionary act, especially in a world where I’m made to feel ashamed of my huge-ass belly. But I’m trying anyway to love myself for all I am.

  3. February 11, 2017 / 11:26 am

    Valentine’s day wasn’t always a capitalist holiday! And it started out celebrating just love, not romance or couple-love, just love <3 I hate how commercialised it is, but knowing the facts and legends of St Valentine make me appreciate it and want to celebrate it! We always had a school assembly for Valentine's day and would be told the story of St Valentine :') I loved it! I've drafted a post of the true stories behind V day, tried to write it in an interesting non-history lesson type way haha! 🙂

    I'm not usually one for V day gifts and cards…. but I did flat-out ask my boyfriend to get me something from Lush haha xD

  4. February 12, 2017 / 7:36 pm

    My fiance and I have never celebrated Valentine’s Day but I really hate it when people get salty about others celebrating. It’s still a far less commercialised holiday than Christmas, but I barely see anybody knocking that.

  5. February 13, 2017 / 6:28 pm

    I don’t celebrate valentine’s but we do try to just spend a little time together and watch a film. Really love the message of this post, Tara! xo

  6. February 17, 2017 / 1:47 pm

    Why should I celebrate my body? My body is shit and it has failed me when I relied on it the most. That’s why it deserves some training regimen.

  7. February 18, 2017 / 3:30 am

    I love Valentine’s Day, because it gives me an excuse to be more soppy than usual with my boyfriend and friends. Although we opted to celebrate the day after as well, because our anniversary is also the day after! Really enjoyed this post Tara, I’d love to see a box created specifically for singles on Valentine’s Day. x

  8. February 20, 2017 / 10:00 pm

    I love it when people write things different than the standard, “what I love/hate about valentine’s day” because this way you can really understand what people think. We definitely should be promoting love in general as well as our bodies much more, and I totally agree that it’s important!

    Kyia

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