Feminist New Year’s Resolutions

Feminist New Year’s Resolutions

Christmas is out the way and 2017 is right around the corner. Now is the time people live off cold cuts and start thinking about want they want to achieve next year. I’m not really a fan of resolutions myself, here are some of my favourite alternatives. There’s a lot of negative language and impressions that come with them. Happiness is almost never a priority.

One quick Google search shows us that getting fit or losing weight are two of the most popular resolutions. There is a bizarre ‘guilt culture’ which is overwhelmingly present this time of year. It’s absolute bullshit and I can’t get behind it. Food is meant to be enjoyed and that’s what Christmas is all about.  Despite what many companies say, you are absolutely under no obligation to go on a diet come January. (Unless you want to, of course.)

In fact, a lot of popular New Year’s Resolutions are a bit problematic. If you are somebody who enjoys resolutions, why not consider these feminist ones instead.

Feminist alternatives to popular resolutions

  1. Lose weight. Instead of worrying about what you weigh, take a look at everything that is dragging you down instead. Get rid of all the dead weight and be as ruthless as you need to be. Say goodbye to all of the shit you don’t want to see online, things you no longer want to do, stupid men, toxic friends, the lot.
  2. Get fit. If you want to get fit in the New Year, consider altering your mindset first. On that note, make mental health a priority in general. 2016 was a tough year on us all, take more time out and up your self care.

New Year’s Resolutions for feminists

  1. Take up space. Do more of what you love and do it unapologetically.
  2. Say ‘fuck you’ to beauty standards. These things really don’t matter, they’re all made up anyway. Wear what you makes you feel comfortable. Forget about rules and do what you want.
  3. Support more women in 2017. Support all women, not just your white sisters. If your feminism isn’t intersectional, it’s bullshit. There is more than one way to be a woman. You cannot pick and choose who your feminism includes. If it’s not for all women, what are you fighting for?
  4. Make strides to be more inclusive. One of the biggest takeaways from this year is that white women need to do better. This includes myself as well. Different groups face different kinds of oppression, just because you don’t experience it doesn’t mean it’s not real. Make more of an effort to be a better ally. Listen to people’s experiences, don’t talk for or over people, amplify other voices and ask what you can do to support.
  5. Stop asking ‘is this feminist?’. Respect other people’s decisions. Stop trying to pit women against each other.
  6. Call more people out. I honestly think we excuse too much and this is why things don’t change. We have a tendency to avoid discussing certain things in case of making a scene or ruining a friendship and so on. But look at the state of the world, Donald Trump is going to be President. Now is the time to challenge people and call them out on their shit.
  7. Listen to criticism. The most memorable thing I saw online this year was ‘think about the times you are the Lena Dunham of the conversation‘. By all means challenge white feminism but think about what you can do better also. In the past, I have been guilty of not listening and just getting too defensive. It doesn’t matter what your intentions are, listen to what people are saying.
  8. Shop small. Support more small businesses and independent sellers. Stop asking people to work for free. Support creatives and buy your friend’s art.
  9. Donate. Whether it’s your time, money, or possessions, spend more time finding out how you can help local women’s shelters or charities etc.
  10. Rise up and fight fight fight. Recognise your privilege, use it for good. Make an effort to find out what can be done to fight injustice. Sign/share petitions, tweet people, etc. You have a voice, please use it.

 

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29 Comments

  1. December 29, 2016 / 11:48 am

    I love reading someone’s new year’s resolutions. It’s good to hear from other people what they want to change on themselves and be a better person and turn it a better year. These are great resolutions, Tara!

    • Tara | C&CO.
      January 4, 2017 / 1:09 pm

      Thank you Augustin!

  2. hanniearden
    December 29, 2016 / 12:04 pm

    Absolutely loved this! GO GIRL!

    Hugs,
    Hannie

    • Tara | C&CO.
      January 4, 2017 / 1:10 pm

      Thanks Hannie!

  3. December 29, 2016 / 1:12 pm

    Yes! Love these. I am going to be all about shopping small and donating next year – I want to get to know more artists and creatives whose work I can support, and donate to more kickstarters.

    • Tara | C&CO.
      January 4, 2017 / 1:10 pm

      Definitely want to check out more kickstarters too!

  4. December 29, 2016 / 6:25 pm

    Brilliant resolutions and I think the main one for me is being mindful and not slipping into a ‘Lena Dunham’ moment…

    eleanor

    • Tara | C&CO.
      January 4, 2017 / 1:13 pm

      Yes arguably the most important one!

  5. December 29, 2016 / 6:41 pm

    These are great 😀 I kind of switched off halfway through 2016 and let myself be numb to Brexit and the election. But I could only do that ‘cos I’m privileged enough too so in 2017 I gotta make myself uncomfortable. I’m settled in other parts of my life so I feel I’m in a stable and good place to really be a better ally.

    I’m loving seeing all the body posi resolutions this year! I’ve always hated New Years resolutions, I’ve always said why wait until the New Year to change? But I guess sometimes we don’t realise something needs changing until we reflect on the past year 🙂 I deffo won’t be dieting or starting a new fitness regime! My resolutions are to be a better ally, to stop putting things off and get the worst done first, and to take more photos! I also really wish I could stop comparing myself to others but I’m hoping that’s just a phase. Three resolutions is enough to really focus on I reckon 😛 xo

    • Tara | C&CO.
      January 4, 2017 / 1:13 pm

      I reckon a lot of us switched off in 2016 to be fair, 2017 is the time to rise up!

  6. December 29, 2016 / 11:38 pm

    I love reading new year’s resolutions!! i just put mine up. i love how yours are all centred on really helping yourself and helping others.

    • Tara | C&CO.
      January 4, 2017 / 1:13 pm

      Thank you! I definitely want to try be a better person this year

  7. December 30, 2016 / 3:15 am

    Excellent ideas, Tara. I especially resonated with cutting off the dead weight and things weighing us down.

    • Tara | C&CO.
      January 4, 2017 / 1:15 pm

      It’s so freeing!

  8. chronicendeavors
    December 30, 2016 / 12:23 pm

    This is such a great post! So glad to be following you and your feminist ideals, you’re an inspiration ?

    • Tara | C&CO.
      January 4, 2017 / 1:17 pm

      Aw thank you so much, that’s so lovely of you to say. Definitely working on trying to do more!

  9. renalexis01
    December 30, 2016 / 3:53 pm

    Numbers 2 and 3 are definitely in my list! As always, great write up, Tara. You inspire me so much! I haven’t commented on your blog posts much, but I am always visiting this site of yours. Keep slaying, girl! xoxo

    • Tara | C&CO.
      January 4, 2017 / 1:17 pm

      That’s so nice of you to say, thank you so much for reading and supporting my little blog 🙂

  10. December 30, 2016 / 8:09 pm

    This is fantastic – so many resolutions that are so much better than the standard “lose 2 stone” etc etc. Thanks for sharing these Feminist NY Resolutions – I love them! x

    • Tara | C&CO.
      January 4, 2017 / 1:18 pm

      No problem, sick of seeing them myself!

  11. December 31, 2016 / 6:49 pm

    This! I absolutely love these alternatives and I’m adopting them as my own solutions.

    • Tara | C&CO.
      January 4, 2017 / 1:18 pm

      Yay!

  12. Alyse (J.X.L.)
    January 1, 2017 / 1:39 am

    I LOVE the suggestions for feminist resolutions, especially #1, #2, and #5. I believe feminism is also about the right to choose and it’s not our place to judge the decisions of others. Yes to unapologetically owning our space!

    Alyse (J.X.L.) ▲

    • Tara | C&CO.
      January 4, 2017 / 1:19 pm

      Couldn’t agree more!

  13. Emily Underworld
    January 3, 2017 / 5:01 pm

    Some awesome feminist resolutions here! I definitely need to try and shop small more often, donate more, and remember that I’m allowed to take up space!
    – Emily

    • Tara | C&CO.
      January 4, 2017 / 1:19 pm

      It can be the hardest thing to remember in a world that doesn’t want women to step out of stereotypes!

  14. January 3, 2017 / 10:40 pm

    I definitely needed to see this today! When a new year starts I always put a lot of pressure on myself to tick a lot of things off very early on, and a lot of them can be negative, so seeing the points about self care, looking after yourself and getting rid of what’s made me unhappy this year is empowering. I spent a lot of time in 2016 worrying about what other people think of me or how each decision I make would affect the way people in my life see me or whether or not they’re disappointed in me – it’s this kind of anxious thinking I need to get away from as 2016 was a hard year for me, so thank you for this post Tara it means a lot to read these and know that it’s important to look after yourself and strive for better things. Love your points about feminism too and speaking up about causes and aiming for the right thing – it’s just what we need to hear at this point in life. – Tasha

    • Tara | C&CO.
      January 4, 2017 / 1:20 pm

      I hope 2017 is better for you!

      • January 4, 2017 / 3:13 pm

        Thank you Tara <3 Hope it's wonderful for you too!

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